A CHAPTER of her story..!

From the very beginning, our parents taught us to be strong.How do you become strong? If you happen to ask  this question to young kids , they would probably answer by showing up their tiny muscles, or they would scream, "Boost is what makes them stronger".The same question when I asked a teenager,the reply was "Experience" that makes us stronger each day. 

Before moving on, take few moments to ask yourself a question. What makes you stronger? 

In the world of individuality and uniqueness,people differ by their opinions and intimate thoughts.No two individuals can think similar. Every stage of growing up will make u experiment different pages of life.Of which, some lead to beautiful destinations and some to barren lands. Neither destination nor journey, instead the experiences, you'll carry the entire life.Being an introvert, I've always had this thought in mind: to be strong is to surround yourself by people.The people around,will make you become a stronger individual.But it took me 18 long years to realize the true meaning of being strong. 

My life was going perfect. It was exactly how I wanted it to be. At the age of 17,I've got everything that I was longing in life.The place where I was surrounded by people, built new relations out of my nutshell, where the existence of two people who are responsible for my being mattered the most.All those feelings which are buried inside me, are finding their ways to be free. This made me believe, Now I am at the right place in making myself stronger each day.Life has other plans. People say happiness doesn't lasts forever, in my case it was absolutely true.The day is almost here,where everything came to an end. It was a nightmare come true for me. 

I had my first breakup.And I was shattered ,broken all at once. I couldn't figure it out what was actually happening around me.Completely clueless. You'll be wondering, it might be  a breakup with the guy, whom I was dating. It's obvious that people would assume something like this at the age of 17.But you know what? NO. 

She had parted away from me.  Our friendship, where I found my happiness indeed my complete self was ended. This is definitely not less than having a breakup right.And the rest,I was left alone. My belief where I assumed having people around will make you stronger, made me feel so weak and low. I've started cursing myself,yelling at the walls, grieving inside. That was very disturbing and where ever I go,it kept me haunting.Tired of being all alone, looked up for the space to be myself, for a chance of expressing but nothing turned out. At that particular moment, I started unfolding things, understanding them with all my acceptance. Trust me, I found solution to every unanswered question.And here it goes.. 

1. Need for a helping hand

     Remember, when whole world goes against you, it's only she who stays by your side, and always present to wipe off your tears-Your MOM..! 

2. Fear of rejection 

    All of us would have come across this fear at some point of time. But, what made me realize was, " I still have an option".I started investing myself at different disposals, which made me overrule this fear. There is always an opportunity cost to everything we say yes to. 

3. No one around to make you strong (Dependence) 

  It is not because of the person I felt alone, instead it is because of the belief I had. Definitely, I was wrong  on my part. You don't need someone to make you stronger, it is YOU, who can make yourself a stronger individual. 

4. How do I decide? 

     Always have this in mind, if you struggle to make a choice,hold on and ask yourself a question. Doing this will make my mom happy? If yes-proceed, if no-then terminate. As simple as it appears.  

One of the beautiful notes from the Buddha says,   Do not believe in anything simply bcoz you've heard it, Do not believe in anything simply bcoz it is spoken by many, Do not believe in anything simply bcoz it is found written in your religious books. But after observation and analysis, where you find that anything agrees with reason and is conducive to the good and benefit of one and all then accept it and live up to it.In the recent times 1 among 10 people, are  falling prey to depression. We never know what is happening in person's life.They seem absolutely normal outside,remember  we're seeing a highlight reel not the real reel.In the battle of struggle, one never know what they're up-to. By the time we realize our need for them, they will be on the verge of ending lives. Have you ever thought what could be the reason? 

The time gap between :

 The moment we think-----To the moment we act. 

We grave for the person when he's lost, but not when he's around. All they require is, a small ray of hope. Providing your support doesn't mean posting yourself on social media instead lend a shoulder to lean on, Invest your time, stand by them, because when someone is going through a storm, Your presence is more powerful than a million words. 

To sum up my whole journey in one line, I would say from assuming stronger to actually achieving it, I've had experienced a beautiful page in life. I must say, all this had happened just because of that one person whom, I'll always be thankful for. Without whom I wouldn't have realized, the entire life.Always be grateful for having such beautiful people in life, who makes you become a better person than ever. The takeaway from the story is, Everyone wants to live on top of the mountain but all the happiness and growth occurs while you're climbing it.